What is a Soulmate?

A little philosophy this Monday evening….do you mind?

I was wondering…what is a soulmate?

According to the Urban Dictionary, a soulmate is: “A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet — a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior.”

Okay. I see how that fits a couple. The love of your life and all. But can friends be soulmates? Grandkids? Cousins? Aunts and Uncles?

I always hear people saying that they “found their soulmate.” That their connection is so intimate, so strong, that nothing else can compare. That the two of them are synchronic in every way.


I’ve been married 36 years and hope to be married 36 more. I love my hubby. I enjoy hanging with my hubby. He knows me and I know him. He doesn’t get my need to write, my desire to walk the streets of Paris or my love of science fiction and time travel. I don’t care about his hunting escapades, his golf score, or his football pool. 

Are we soulmates?

I love my kids more than I love life. Double that for my grandkids. When I’m playing on the floor with the 2-year-old we bond over Hot Wheels and the contents of my purse. The 7-year-old and I share the magic of looking for elves and rhinos in the woods and read Pete the Cat books with fervor.

Are we no less soulmates?

My best girlfriends have gone to hell and back. My girls and I share pain and laughter, confusion and daydreams. We cry together, we dream of going to Ireland together, we share our love of writing and crocheting and scrapbooking on levels mere mortals dream of.

Are we no less soulmates?

I have had friends in my life who shared the secrets of my alter ego, the mad writer. They have come to me in their darkest moments, and opened their hearts to me in mine. We shared magic and coffee and secrets and encouraged each other’s wild and crazy dreams..

Are we no less soulmates?

I think the definition of soulmate is way too narrow. There is not just  one soul for you — there are dozens. Because it’s more than great sex, dancing till dawn or making babies. A soulmate loves you for who you are, for your mistakes and your triumphs. They make you feel like a million bucks and you make them feel like two. 

Soulmates meet in that sacred space where emotion and thought wrap around and through each other like a Celtic knot until you can’t tell who is who and what is what. You both meet and part and meet again in the most wonderful ways.

When I look for rhinos in the woods I am in that sacred space. When I rub hand lotion from my purse on tiny hands I am in that sacred space. And when I say good night to the man I love I am in that sacred space.

And when you come across those moments, remember — they are your soulmates, too. 



15 thoughts on “What is a Soulmate?

  1. I’ve often given the definition of “Soul Mates” thought, I have come to the same conclusion as you the definition is Way To Narrow ! Thank you for sharing the Art work and Your thoughts !


  2. I agree and honor every word. When I see how much the human heart can hold and love, how can you not hold other souls in your heart? Thank you so much for sharing. Miss you.


  3. I think the term soulmate encompasses quite a circle. Certainly my children, my new wife, and friends old and new. However the soul remains long after the body turns to dust. My father passed several years ago and yet when I take a walk at night and gaze up at the stars, I am again Selden Harts little boy, traveling together through the Milky Way — soulmates forever.


  4. That’s the beauty of it. There is your one, true love…but there’s also the loves you’ve had in your life. Children, friends, old girlfriends, old boyfriends. Our hearts have endless depths … each soul we connect with takes us further and further through the essence of life. You are blessed to have soulmates. We all are.

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  5. A lovely soulful article Claudia, and yes I agree with you, and I’ve several beautiful soulmates, especially even more so since Carole has passed. I’m lucky they’ve been good to me, comforting and understanding, during my many tough times, and have travelled the whole journey with over all these years of ups, and so many downs……xx


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