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No Resolutions!

~ humoringthegoddess ~ 8 Comments

I don’t know if New Year’s Resolutions are still a big thing these days.

Years past people have made big vows (lose weight, stop smoking), medium vows (finish writing novel, walk more) and small vows (give up chocolate shakes, text friends more).

Some resolutions are no brainers (learn a new creative art), others are impossible (lose 20 pounds in two weeks).

It seems we are never satisfied with ourselves, so we pick one “official” day to go cold turkey and turn our lives around.

Of course, such an abrupt stop and start often doesn’t work out, because we don’t change the energy around such abrupt changes. 

We can’t eat a pound of chocolate chip cookies one day and give them up forever the next. We can’t start walking five miles a day when we can barely walk to the corner and back. 

We all get very lofty with our new resolutions, and become depressed and disillusioned when we don’t fulfill them within a few weeks.

I have stopped making New Year’s Resolutions.

Life is hard enough without bringing the wrath of Armageddon down upon myself for non compliance.

What I have been doing is changing my life one step at a time. I am changing, even though it’s at a pretzel logic pace. 

We don’t buy snacks like chips and cookies and junk food anymore. To compromise, I do make homemade banana bread and pineapple smoothies. I don’t walk a marathon every day (as the small of my back protests) but I do walk up and down the stairs at least five times a day. I no longer have novel writing in the near future, but between blogging and making suncatchers and drawing and a few other creative ventures I’m kept quite alert mentally.

I believe every day is a chance to improve your lot in life. I laugh because I’m always saying “I learned something new today!” The things I learn (and sometimes later forget) aren’t earth shattering — but they are things I’ve never known about my whole life.

I look in the mirror every morning and ask myself what I can do to improve what I’ve been carrying around for 70+ years. A haircut? Undereye cream? Get rid of clothes that don’t fit?

New Year’s resolutions are more of a marker in life. Ideas and wishes that have crystalized into a determination to do something sooner than later.

I say — let’s just work on ourselves one day at a time. Work to to learn something new, eat healthier, move move. No time restrictions — just a mental note that you achieved something yesterday and will do so again today.

Let’s let the resolutions disappear into the mist, leaving a good heart and good vibrations in its wake.  

YOU CAN DO IT!!!

 

 

 

Take Note of your Promises

~ humoringthegoddess ~ 11 Comments

The rush between Christmas Eve and New Year’s Day makes fools of us all.
~Claudia the Unicorn

 

This is the first time I’ve used my own wit as a quote. Witless, I say …

But it’s true. Starting with Christmas Eve and ending New Year’s Day, it seems we shove a month’s worth of emotions into one week. The sadness, the renewal, the promises of New Year’s resolutions and the resolve of keeping in touch with Christmas acquaintances.

Come February (or even the middle of January) we have forgotten the promises we made to ourselves when our emotions were high and out of control. We don’t mean to forget — it’s just that life gets in the way.

But is life a life of it’s own? Or do we make what we do every day more important than what we do in the long term?

I see a lot of pretzel logic coming through. I know what I want to say but the meaning gets side tracked all the time.

Are the promises of days gone by any more important than the promises we make today? Should we even make promises/vows/resolutions at all?

Promises/vows/resolutions usually come from guilt. We didn’t visit this person or that person as much as we wanted and now that person has moved on. We try on a pair of pants we wore last year or three years ago and they barely move up our legs, so we promise to lose 15 pounds. 

These promises made through the emotional music of the “holidays” barely ever stick. We are truly remorse, sorry, honest as we hear strains of Merry Christmas Darling by Karen Carpenter or read affirmations on Facebook or Instagram promising truth and commitment and new beginnings in the new year.

But none of those promises or affirmations will stick past your emotional moments if you don’t believe in them. If you don’t do something more than say the words. 

And that’s the hard thing — making emotional promises a reality. For we all really truly do feel those things at the moment. We really do want to lose weight or take the trip we promised ourselves years ago.  It’s just the application of those vows that’s hard to work into our every day busy life.

So my suggestion is: Make those promises/vows/resolutions with a full heart and soul, letting the moment stand out in your mind. But be aware of what you are promising yourself, and take the next step and work through those promises one at a time.

You don’t have to call everyone you’ve ever left behind. Start with one person you haven’t talked to that you really miss. If talking on the phone bothers you, start with an email. Friend them on Facebook. Start small. Start with one at a time. One. You really want those old pants to fit? Lose one pound at a time. One. Cut out dessert of soda or walk around the block once. Just once.

Start paying off your emotions one transaction at a time. That way your heart and soul will be able to mesh the promise with your actual outcome. Your promise will become clearer as time goes on, separating the over-the-top emotional impossibilities from what you can really accomplish.

See? That pretzel logic finally made its way back to center!

Now … where were we going?