Watching TV My Way

It’s actually kind of funny that after 36 years of marriage (plus a few more added on for living together first), I have to re-adjust to being around my significant other.

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. Indeed it does, but it also makes our shared time a confusing mess.

The last couple of years my other has been working the night shift. Not a big deal for most couples. Not a big deal for us. Except just as get into my girlie routine being by myself, he’s home an extra night and I’m thrown off base.

The first 2/3s of my life I spent every evening with him. Kids, dogs, family. Mowing the lawn. Doing the laundry. Playing video games. Reading books. Like synchronized swimmers, we did a lot of things either in tandem or complimentary to each other.

His work hours  these days are Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, and every other Saturday night from 5pm to 5am.  So I do Japanese Movies with English Subtitles on Monday, Horror Movies on Tuesday,  binge watch series and write on Saturday, and watch dramas and tearjerkers and do Art Gallery pictures on Sunday.  I throw in a little pretzel housework between movies or chapters — it’s a little dizzying but it works for me.

You say, why don’t I include him in my pretzel activities?

He thinks I’m nuts already for the Japanese movie part. He thinks B horror movies are a waste of time. Breaking Bad didn’t interest him, nor did Stranger Things, both of which I power watched. I text, write, surf, watch, fetch and wash at my own speed. I eat what I want when I want, not fearing eyes watching me have a bowl of ice cream before bed.

Yet when we do spend the evening together and we’re not working on some “project” we crash on the sofa and…watch TV. I don’t care for the Ultimate Fighter or  the Beverly Hillbillies and I cringe watching anything with commercials, so I usually pull out my laptop for a couple of hours.

I’ve worked 64 years on developing this wonderful, quirky personality. Or rather it’s taken me 64 years to accept this wonderful, quirky personality. Either way, I like things my way. The pretzel way.

I’m sure my hubby doesn’t mind it either, otherwise he wouldn’t have stayed with me for so long. But when the day is done and the two of us are together and we’re not going crazy with grandkids or mowing or other lovely pastimes, I say —

To think I did all that
And may I say – not in a shy way
Oh no, oh no, not me
I did it myyyy wayyyy…….


9 thoughts on “Watching TV My Way

  1. This is the best affirmation of a relationship I’ve ever seen. And felt. If we can bend a little in our expectations the whole world opens up to us — and what a wonderful world it is! Thank you for sharing,


  2. Having just remarried after 8 years of living the single life, I have discovered that it is much easier to go with the flow than it was as a younger man. We are happy when we do things together, but also happy for each other when we can do the things we like on our own. Funny, but just like “The Goddess”, also on my 64th year, I have come to accept the fact that the many facets of my world and the many facets of my new partner, are not a perfect fit, but a shared tapestry that can be appreciated for not only the combined overall beauty but those lovely loose ends that belong to the individual.


  3. Oh we are like sisters! This has nothing to do with our love and affection and devotion — it’s more about finally doing what WE want to do, and we’re always interrupted! I’m not giving up, though. Sunday through Tuesday nites are still exclusively mine. Let’s go for the Japanese Movie!


  4. Whatever way suits you, at our age and place in life, we deserve our own comfort zones, your words painted a satisfying and happy situation, well done.


  5. I know exactly what you mean, since my husband retired about 2 years ago he crushed all my routines !! He never used to watch tv so I had the tv all for myself, I ate when I wanted to, took me 5 minutes, now half an hour or more !! He is driving me up the wall asking; where are you going, what are you going to do today, when will you be back, when and what are we having for diner….I used to go with the flow….


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